03 May 4 month sleep regression, a different approach
Ah the dreaded 4 month sleep regression, turning our perfect sleepers into… not so perfect sleepers. I feel uncomfortable with a lot of the advice I’ve read online: move your baby into another room now; leave the baby alone to cry; holding baby is a negative habit we need to break… I’m sure it works for some but at what cost? Of course, we all love to sleep (especially when sleep is what’s lacking), yet as my Greek friend pointed out when I was still pregnant and he was surviving on 4 hours a night with a 7 month old: “we used to not sleep at night for stupid reasons, at least this a very good reason to not sleep”. So, I’m doing the opposite of what I’ve read and when she wakes up, I bring the bubba into bed with me. Controversial. I even nurse her a few times in the night. Whenever she wants in fact. Why? Because I want to show her that I am here for her during the hard times. Of course at some point she can have her own bedroom, but I’m not going to push her away just because she’s being needy. Less controversially, I have also brought her bedtime forward by an hour and I’m making sure she gets 2 naps during the day. These things are not only helping me get more sleep, but, more importantly, the bubba is not getting upset when she wakes up anymore. The sleep regression is annoying for her too and I feel like she needs my support more – not less – during this difficult moment. It’s only been a couple of nights of improvement, so whether my tactics work longterm or not remains to be seen. One thing is for sure, I feel good doing this and Delfi feels better too. We are in Eastbourne at the moment with my folks, while my partner is away filming. The change of environment could have been what kicked off this regression. I’m glad, as it has motivated us to find a more appropriate schedule and to teach my daughter a sense of trust. I know, I know, this is supposed to be mainly a food blog and here I am rabbiting on about my baby’s sleep patterns. I just wanted to express a different perspective on the 4 month sleep regression, without shoe-horning a recipe into it. Thank you and goodnight.